When you’re out at night and meet girls, they’re often in groups. I’m going to stir up some trouble here, - you don’t need the whole group to like you. Just one girl. “The Key Friend” - if you win her over, and suggest your plans to her, then she’ll sell the rest of her friends on the idea.

Here’s how to figure out who the Key Friend is… some of these may seem weird, but after talking with tons of groups, I find these guidelines hold up surprisingly well. Read the rest of this entry »

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“You can’t bore a woman into feeling attracted to you…”

I realize that this may sound like an obvious statement, but judging by the emails that I get week in and week out, maybe it’s not as obvious as it might seem to some guys. In fact, when I think back on my own experiences with women, I am definitely guilty of trying to bore women into feeling attracted to me… So, what do I mean by this silly sounding statement?

Well, let’s start with some ideas that I hear in one form or another all the time:

• “I was a perfect gentleman on our date, but she didn’t call me back, and I can’t reach her…”
• “I don’t want to use any ‘techniques’ with women because I feel like that would be ‘manipulating’ her…”
• “I want a girl who will like me for who I am…”
• “I give her everything she wants, take her out, buy her things, and I don’t understand why she doesn’t feel the same way towards me that I feel towards her…”
• “She tells me that she only likes me as a friend, then she goes out with these guys who treat her like crap instead of going out with a guy like me that would treat her wonderfully and give her everything she wants…”

And the list goes on and on… Read the rest of this entry »

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I get a lot of emails from guys who read my newsletter that say things like… “I’m sure what you’re saying is right, but I don’t want to be a jerk or an asshole to women…” or “I have seen what you’re talking about happen all my life, but I’m a ‘nice guy’ and I want women to like me for me…” and “This doesn’t make sense…”

For most of my life, I was the nice guy of nice guys. As a matter of fact, when I first made the decision to learn how to be successful with women, this actually created an obstacle for me. Let me explain…

Because I believed that “being a nice guy” must be the way to success with women, I actually couldn’t even perceive any other way. In other words, I could see a situation where a woman was attracted to a mean, abusive guy and think to myself that either she must be screwed up in the head, or that the guy must be really nice to her the rest of the time. Read the rest of this entry »

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